Successful Relationship is a product of WE time & ME time

This article is purposefully written for those who are in a kind of sick relationship and don’t know the way out…

Relationship turns bitter when there is a lack of time management between partners. More than 50% breakups and divorce occurs because couples fail to spend quality time together. With no time- there is no understanding, no feelings of love, no motivation to continue, and in a rarest case, no purpose to live. Thus, here we really see the dangerous consequences of lack of time management among partners.

Lack of time management is due to two issues which could fail any relationships-

  1. ME Time= Privacy

Privacy is a precious gift for the development of inner potentials. One needs to keep learning and growing so as to keep up with the competitive times. Most partner interfere so much in others matter that they forget to provide the essential time one might need for overall well-being. This generates a feeling of suffocation that makes others feel like running away somewhere else.

ME time is the most important time for personal understanding and knowing of self. In a committed relationship, an unbearable interference takes away the meaningfulness of life. This results into restricted self -development which leads into a failure to use one’s conscience. The feeling of non-knowing kills the person from within. The feeling of being unable to decide for ‘self’ mentally paralyses the person. This is the reason any kind of relationship works only when a person pays enough attention to underlying passion and self-growth. ME time is the idea of self-healing. And healing is always required for attaining balance in between body, mind, and soul.      

  1. WE Time= staying together

People believe that living together can solve any types of problems in relationships. On contrary, I believe it’s a wrong perception. Despite live-in-together, most couple fails to enter into a long- term relationship. What could be the reason for this failure?

It is because they are not able to deliver proper time to each other. Couples may spend the necessary time together- such as eating, living, house management. In all this, they fail to dedicate the essential time of togetherness. They fail to care, pamper, eliminate addictions (mobile phone, smoking, bad habits, etc.), show interest in others passions, share feelings, and exchange ideas.

We are all aware that just planting a tree is not enough. On a regular basis, we need to give water, fertilizers, protection against storms, remove weeds, do basic cutting, and so on. In a similar way, just entering into a relationship is not enough, one needs to show continuous love, care, proper understanding, and balanced attention.

The combination of WE time and ME time could play the perfect role in sustaining a healthy relationship. I hope this article would provide the couples with an advantage of both being together to share love, time, emotion and being in a private zone to finish work target, fulfill passion, and enjoy personal care sessions.      

Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam: Ideas of Ancient Indian Philosophy

Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam means ‘All Earth is one family’. This idea of philosophy has been utilized during various times of political and social engagement with the world. In recent, this idea is put forward by Prime minister Shri Narendra Modi to build international harmony during the world peace conference. The idea is functional as the solution to community feud, false status pride, negative approach towards others, non-understanding, acquiring resources more than need, disturbing natural orders, and non-following of universal law. This idea also brings a new dimension to humanity. Nowadays, people are losing their ancient values because of multiple side-effects of modernity. Philosophy of ‘Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam’ helps to preserve the other important notions of caring for all, helping others, self-guarding truth, acting non-violence, avoiding false claims and disregarding compassion. The essence of unity could be found in the idea of ‘vasudhaiva kutumbakam’. The oneness with all may encourage us to conquer the limitations within and proceed towards freedom. The other important ideas supporting the concepts of ‘Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam’ are respectively explored here-

  1. Following Interdependence nature
    Interdependence is being dependent on one other for living. It is important to understand that we all need others for our sustenance. Independently, we can’t survive on this planet. From basic to advance needs, we need tolerance & cooperation from all.
  2. Cooperation in Religious & cultural beliefs of others
    Some beliefs are very personal and sensitive for a community. We must consider other’s religious beliefs respectfully and not interfere with their living patterns. We have the right to resist, if and only if, such beliefs are disturbing the practice of our faith.
  3. Realizing the meaning of existence
    Existence doesn’t mean just surviving, it is more than that. Existence is a pattern of living by following our beliefs, faith, knowledge, attitude, and skills. Realizing existence means knowing self. Having a proper and complete knowledge of self would make our existence meaningful.
  4. Following system of commune living
    Commune means living together by sharing the resources and materials of requirements. This system is important to eradicate the goals of human to acquire material possession. It is not so important to have a material possession, but we must continue the process of spiritual development.
  5. Showing compassion towards others.
    Compassion means sympathy with others problem and a desire to alleviate it. When we show compassion, the kindness emerge by itself and an overall feeling of wellness is generated.
  6. Ensuring collectivism
    Collectivism is important for the community. It stresses on the belief that all the production and distribution belongs to group or community rather individual being. This concept is important because generally people with power are seeking individualistic control on the processes of this world.
  7. Instrument to peace & harmony
    The entire philosophy of ‘all world is family’ is based on the universal peace, harmony and brotherhood. This concept is pure and seeks only the happiness of all being. It doesn’t have any underlying desires of selfishness. World harmony matters to each being of this planet, and an idea which indicates the same is vasudhaiva kutumbakam.
  8. Bringing change in the existing pattern of humanity
    Humanity is diverting from the goals of peace, tolerance, acceptance, belonging, and welfare. The existing pattern seeks only power, money, contact-reference, self-benefits, and success. This is necessary to be changed because all this has no contribution to the real and concrete progress of society.
  9. Sharing and caring
    The more we show the spirit of sharing resources, knowledge, or ideas with others, the more likely we are willing to show genuine feelings of kindness and companionship. Sharing and caring always go hand in hand. It works for all the communities, caste, and creed. The union between opposite groups could be generated by such a simple concept of share & care.
  10. Being responsible for every life
    Each and every life matters on this planet. We can’t neglect the life of lower conscious beings. It may not contribute as much as humans could, but without them, the complete life cycle could fail. Killing other animals unnecessarily or making others devoid of basic resources like food, shelter, water is a wrong doing which humans have been conducting since long. This has affected the prevailing environmental conditions and consequences could also be observed in the form of climate change or soil erosion.

Philosophy of ‘Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam’ is meaningful because it makes us to preserve the important cultures. With regular practice of such an amazing philosophy, we could see our world turning in a happier and friendly place. Our pride is enhanced and the sentiments of others are secured.

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