How you treat with your scars?

With today’s Suicide prevention day, September 10 2020,  it seems necessary to look back at our scars, which might have occurred out of our problems,  depression, and struggles. Let’s reflect back at our scars with new perspectives to remind us again that we are strong, brave, deserve praise, and grateful for everything in our life. 

Scar is a physical mark of accident,  injury,  and violence,  inflicted in the body,  either by self or others. We all must be having a scar at some point in our life. We all might have felt painful,  sad and unhappy for the scar marks in our body. There are many problems concerning scars.  For some of us, scar is the evidence of first pain we might have experienced in our life. For some others,  it’s the worst memory one could have in life.  For very few,  it’s an answer to the challenges life brings on us.  

It’s evident from the past society that we have always misunderstood our scars.  Media & advertising industry has taken full advantage of these weaknesses. They have tried to sell the products which could remove or hide our scars.  We have always made mistakes to identify the true meaning of our scar.  In this writing,  I would be reflecting on the beauty of scars, we have been overlooking for such a long period of time.  

Have we observed children?  For them,  even a tiny scar mark is such a wonderful topic to discuss.  When they accidentally fall down,  they cry,  shout,  scream,  and express all inner emotions.  When they recover,  and find scars in their body,  they will boast stories of their bravery.  They will tell others about the pain and their struggle to come out of it.  They will always have amazing feelings for their scars.  Even superhero will carry scars of fight,  mysterious origin, and victory. Character Harry Potter was popular for the scar on his head.  

When we grow younger,  we start feeling insecure for our scars.  We try to hide it from other people.  When someone asks the story of our scars,  we reveal its truth with so much concern,  worry, and hesitation. 

As we step into adulthood, the insecurity for our scars increase. And we seriously start thinking about it.  We would visit the surgeon and skin specialists,  we would move to every corner of the world, and spend every penny required to get free from our scars.  

There are very few individuals who enjoy living with their scars.  Why are scars the topic of hatred?  Why are scars treated as if it’s not our own? Why are scars often overlooked by individuals? While digging deeply into the scars, it’s clear that scars are our story of conquering pain, standing upright, facing reality,  and feeling pride in growing up.  Some insecurities of the world around us often made us hate our own scars, its beauty, glory and identity.  

Scars is a bridge between the journey of who you were and who you are now.  It’s your natural identity which reveals a brave story about you. It’s all depends on us how we look at it.  Animals carry their scars without any hesitation.  By looking at the scars of an animal, we got to know a lot of things about it.  We got to know the struggles,  the bravery,  and fights.  The animals who carry scars,  show more power,  understanding of situations,  and willingness to protect the territory.

When it comes to humans,  they avoid their scars to avoid unwanted sympathy, attention,  and criticism. Many would ask about scars, and if the story is too personal,  then they are ready to create a scene out of it.  In ancient India,  there used to be many conservative families which would scan the bride’s body first,  before selecting her for marriage. If, by mistake, they find even a scratch,  they will cancel the marriage there itself.  

Scars are considered as a symbol of ugliness.  In ancient times,  women used to protect themselves from cruel men. They will harm their body, face and allow the scars to appear.  They knew very well that men would escape after looking at their ugliness. 

These were the real stories of scars. We have mistreated it for quite a long time.  Today we are talking about accepting yourself as who you are.  Then,  why do we still ignore our scars? Why don’t we accept it as it is?  Why don’t we treat it as our achievement & trophies? Your scar mark is your identity of the intensity of pain you could experience.  Your scars speak about the glory you achieved. Your scars tell you about the misunderstanding you faced in life.  Your scars speak of tortures put on you. Most importantly, your scars speak of the person you were then,  and the person you turned into now.  Scars define your past and remind you not to repeat the mistakes of the past. Scars sometimes originate out of our act of depression.  Scars is a reminder of coming out of unpredictable situations. Scars remind us that we have conquered our problems.  It tells us that we can face such problems with full knowledge and awareness in future.  By learning the true meaning of our scar, the unpredictability of a situation decreases.  We identify the hidden symbols of mistrust,  misunderstanding, and lack of awareness.  Scars warn you not to turn victim again.  It warns us that history could be repeated again. It tells us that consequences could be dangerous again.  It increases your abilities to conquer your difficult times with confidence, and bravery. Scars make us conscious on  steps we are going to take in our life.  Scars give us warning to take carefully the decision in life.  With so much importance of scar marks,  it’s totally insane to neglect and expel it away from our life. 

It’s time now to understand the scar marks on our body, and live it as our real trophies. If you have your story concerning scars, please feel free to share. The more we discuss, the more lighter our journey becomes.

Know your mind

Our mind is a lovely place where the thoughts come from. If our mind is in trouble so we’d be stressed all the time and couldn’t comfortably live our lives. Understanding our minds and meeting its demands could give us a wonderful opportunity to live, discover and enjoy.

Happiness is pleasant state of mind. Our happiness depends upon three important things- object, people, and circumstances. So, we could relate why we feel happy on meeting our friend and sad on meeting person we dislike. It is not very clear where our mind is located as it couldn’t be physically detected. But, we could understand its functionality for the purpose of complete well being.

Our mind is very important to perceive the world. The five senses plays an important role in perception, but it’s only our mind which can give true meaning to what we perceive. We generally feel stressed when we aren’t comfortable with our mindset. The psychosomatic conditions(physical illness caused by internal stress) and the mental problems of worry, fear, anger, anxiety could be a threat for the overall well being of humans. And that’s the reason, stress could be defined as feeling of discomfort in both body and mind. It generally happens that we give enough attention to our bodily needs but we often forget our mind. In all this, it becomes impossible to completely eliminate the stressful feelings troubling us.

Breath is the physiological process which directly impacts the level of well being. Our breath makes us understand the possibility of stress. The irregular breath is an indication of underlying stress. To control the stress, we should control our breath. Ancient yoga practices like Kriya Yoga(yoga of action), Sudarshan Kriya could help control the breathing rhythm and takes us towards stress-free lifestyles. Kriya or activities to regulate our breathing is very much effective to control the occurring of useless thoughts in our mind. When our mind is in a thought-less state, then it is said to be extremely relaxed and free from any stress.

The yoga practices which helps us to regulate our breath are also called as meditation. Simply, Meditation is observances of one’s thought and gradually relaxation of complete body. It is discovered that there are 108 techniques of meditations. The meditations can provide multiple benefits including stress relief, improving memory, making relationship stronger, and progressing our creativity.

Overall, we understand that stress is a foreign element which can impact the productivity of mind and body. Stress could completely be eliminated by understanding our mindsets and pattern of our breath. So, it makes sense to get into meditation practices for complete negation of illness and stress. Moreover, Our mind is a lovely place where the thoughts come from. If our mind is in trouble so we’d be stressed all the time and couldn’t comfortably live our lives. Understanding our minds and meeting its demands could give us a wonderful opportunity to live, discover and enjoy.

Prioritize Your Emotional well-being

Staying at home is a safe means of securing social well being. How for the Emotional well being? The insecurity people facing sitting at their own home is not been discussed anywhere. The belief that the things will be fine soon is easy to say but difficult to accept. Somewhere in our mind, we are haunted by the list of unanswered questions- ‘how long all this will go?’ ‘How long do we have to stay at home?’ ‘When the vaccines would be announced?’ ‘When the things be alright?’ ‘When would I go out and see things as I used to see?’

The Emotional well being is often neglected. People pretend to be happy but from inside they may be burning in some tension. Let me tell you the method of catharsis which is the release of stored negative emotions. Try the healing techniques I am mentioning further to keep your inner- self sound and content.

The need of an hour is to talk to your inner self and assure it like a little kid “I am fine and I know you are fine too, the world will be fine soon, trust God, it can’t keep its children in sufferings for long”. This kind of activities will generate a sense of relief and would be helpful for the inner well being.

The next activity you can do is to believe in the supreme and chant its name on regular basis. This would not only calm your inner self but would also generate a positive energy. The chanting of prayers and mantras may be a boring thing for an atheist. But, this activity actually purifies our nerves and cleanses the aura. Listening to the calm and peaceful music is also a way to keep your emotional health sound.

Talking to self is a good activity, but talking to others is the best activity. Talk to your friends. Call and discuss old moments. Laugh and relax in moment. Let go of any negativity clouding your mind. Let go your past sins, feuds and misunderstandings. Believe in bright future, and live your moment right.

Involve in the activities you have been missing in life- do writing, poetry, painting, cooking, gardening and feel how you suddenly getting healed. Healing therapy are many. The main aim of this article is to realize the risk attached to your emotional health and deal with it vibrantly.

If you like my post, kindly share your opinion. The purpose of reading isn’t simply understanding but also reflecting. I am attaching a google form, in case any one feels like writing about their emotional issues. Feel free to share. Stay positive. Stay well.

Yoga for Good-Day!

The art of living a happy and healthy life lies in the ancient Rig Vedic practices of ‘Yoga’. Yoga, an ancient therapy is verifiable in the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali.

The Yogic practices comprise of different Asanas(postures) and Pranayams(breathing techniques). This asanas and Pranayam is an easy and effective method for all the age groups. Notably, there are different types of yoga created particularly for different age needs.

Simple Technique- Larger Benefits

The simplest of yoga postures could result in the highest of health benefits. In order to derive the best of health benefits from Yoga, you don’t need to be a learned master. You could practice yoga simply at the comfort level of your home and could get rid of all the diseases.

Just simple and effective guidance from a long-time yoga practitioner could show us the right directions to do the yoga techniques. As long as you practice yoga, you will surely understand its importance and embark on the journey of Yogis (male yoga practitioner) or Yogini (female yoga practitioner).

Yoga for Mindfulness

The knowledge and practice of yoga give physical, mental, social and personal benefits. Yoga is the practical aspects of life. The longer we practice yoga, the better we know our-self. The yoga practice understands our body needs very well. It re-generates the old cells and hence purifies our body.

As we grow older, our body starts turning weak. If proper care & attention is not taken, then it becomes difficult for the body to support life. To ensure long life, one must keep practicing yoga or other forms of exercises.

One must also eat the right kinds of food or the sattvika food for the status of a fit body and a healthy mind. Yoga vidya teaches to intake the sattvika quality (avoidance of meat) of food for better performances in life. The green leafy vegetables and a good amount of water could keep us healthy and fresh throughout our day. Detoxification of our body is only possible when one chooses a healthy diet style.

The mindfulness of doing the right kind of activities or taking the right food is generated by the persistent practice of Yoga.

Listen to your Body

For overall benefits from any activities, one must listen properly to the needs and demands of the body. It means we must check the quantity as well as the quality of food intake. We must also check the amount of physical and mental activity we are doing on a regular basis. The jerk in our body produces when we suddenly start doing any hard physical activities. The jerk could be very harmful to our body as it could damage some nerves permanently. In order to avoid a sudden jerk, one must start the yoga practices in a systematic and tuned way.

Challenging our limitations and getting out of the comfort zone must be a priority for everyone. One must be an active performer and do their best in all the activities. Yoga practices make us strong for all the challenges in life ahead.

To know more, let’s see the concepts described in the teachings of Yoga. Let’s begin with the Patanjali Yoga.

Patanjali has taught the performances of Astanga-yoga in life. Astana-yoga is adopting eight kinds of essential habits in life.

They are- Yama, Niyama, Asana, Pranayama, Pratyahara, Dharana, Dhyana, Samadhi.

Yama or the five abstentions like Ahimsa (Non-violence), Satya(Truthfulness or abstentions from lying), Asteya(Non-stealing), Brahmacharya(loyalty to one’s partner), and Aparigraha(non-possessiveness).

Niyama or the five kinds of observances in life, which are Saucha(Purity), Santosha(Contentment), Tapas(perseverance), Svadhyaya(the study of Vedas), Ishvara Pranidhana(Contemplation of God).

Asanas means be seated in the position of Yoga. It also means to include yoga in our day-to-day activities.

Pranayam denotes breathing techniques which could help to keep up the breaths throughout our body. It regulates our breath and increases the benefits of breaths each cycle.

Pratyahara means withdrawal of sense organs from the external objects. Our senses should help us to gain the right knowledge in life. It shouldn’t be directed to negativity and falsehood.

Dharana (Concentration) – when we are concentrating well on our tasks, then we could be successful in completing that task.

Dhyana(meditation)- A meditative mind could be very useful in maintaining the internal as well as external forms of our life. Through guided meditation and hypnosis, we could cure many visible problems and could keep invisible problems away.

Samadhi(Liberation)– It is the ending part of a true yogi. A person is able to find the soul or consciousness and liberate it from the bondage of life & death.

Challenge Your Body- Physical Fitness

Yoga provides instant satisfaction and long lasting transformations. The physical limit is definitely met as one practices Yoga continuously. Yoga postures are made on challenging postures of animals. The dog pose, serpent pose, camel pose, peacock pose, dead pose, all such poses are created imitating the life of animals around.

The difficulty level increases as we practice various kinds of poses regularly and systematically. Our body starts adapting a variety of poses for the overall strength and wellness.

Conquering the psychological & Emotional limits

Psychological limits- Yoga is the best techniques which distress the body and maintains mental health. Major psychological problems such as schizophrenia and depressions could be cured by the regular practices of Yoga.

The ‘meditation’ in yoga is the fruitful method for sound mental health. The peace at mind makes a person happy, calm and cheerful. The relations start turning positive and the likeability of a person in a group increases. As we calm our mind through the arts of meditation, we breathe long and deep. The longer and deeper breaths regulate the blood flow and overall performances of our body. Yoga is the perfect methods for rejuvenating our mind.

Emotional limits In our life, we may have to face a chain of emotions. Sometimes we are totally broken by a failure or close-one death. In such conditions, we should have a strong emotional balance. Yoga helps to produce such positive balance of mind and body which could help in healing the emotional troubles.

Yoga has proved as a prosperous form of exercise for long years and it would continue providing the benefits for the coming years too. The new technology, climate change, society renewal has changed or transformed everything we see. But art has always been the same.

Yoga method has been the same for a long time, but it has divulged into various forms according to the various rising needs. In today’s time, you can choose yoga which is tailored just for you like power yoga, couple yoga, parental yoga, pregnancy yoga, hot yoga, child yoga, etc.

The implementation of Yoga in life could be very useful. There is no boredom due to its various types plus there are multiple health benefits too. Inclusion of Yoga in one’s life is a one step forward to better health, money, career and social relations.

The psychological, physical and emotional health is tuned up as one starts practicing Yoga and our life starts turning better.

Why ‘I’ matters? A theory of solipsism

‘Only I exists’, ‘I am at the center of this world’, ‘My consciousness’, ‘self-centered’, ‘selfish’, ‘I am alone’. All this describes the word solipsism.

Solipsism is the idea which revolves around the word ‘I’.  Many philosophers have tried to describe the idea of solipsism and connect it with subjective experiences. I guess solipsism is a part of everyone’s life. Therefore, defining it in a way that would give meaning to life and preserve our self would sound great.

The knowledge of self or introspection is believed to be the best technique to understand the self and its capacities. It can help to manage ourself to fit in this world. It should be noted that the knowledge of the external world could be known by self-consciousness.

Now, it’s important to know the terms which explain consciousness. They are- inner, private, subjective, mental, sensations, moods, memories, thoughts, and emotions. By understanding all these terms in-depth, we can understand consciousness. It should be clear that this terms could explain only self-consciousness and not the consciousness of others.

Since we are trying to explore the term solipsism, so it’s the duty to understand and describe self-consciousness well. To know others consciousness is a totally different process and in many ways depends on the intentions as well as actions of a person.

Solipsism has made advancement in individual thinking. An individual being always tries to know thyself best so that it could accommodate in the harsh circumstances and live life with dignity and respect.

I think self-value has become important because of the idea of solipsism. If a person hasn’t considered himself important in life, then in no way he had demanded values and respects from the society. We haven’t seen animals fighting for equality and importance. It is because they don’t understand the self. But, human beings know and understand self very well. And so he thinks of the self-rights and others rights. In this way, he also tries to establish an adequate place in this society.

Many have criticized solipsisms on the basis that it is a false theory with no literal resemblances to our life. Many have compared solipsism to ‘egoisms’, egotisms’. Solipsisms is considered as a negative theory in philosophy. It is not a very useful theory by many philosophers and critics. But, there are some popular philosophers who have worked in the theory of solipsisms and has tried to redefine it. They are- Rene Descartes, Baruch Spinoza, George Berkeley, Johann Gottlieb Fichte, Ludwig Wittgenstein.

Other similar words to solipsisms are ‘personalism’, Transcendental ego(Husserl), ego, super-ego(Freud), Dasein, Existenz(Heidegger), Cogizo, Personality, I, Me.

There are many kinds of solipsisms- Epistemological solipsisms, Ontological solipsisms, metaphysical solipsisms, and psychological solipsisms. The main idea of this essay is to define solipsisms in a way that would give meaning to our life. But, describing the kinds would make the solipsism theory more sound and effective.

Hence, I would be trying to make this kind clear in a few lines to give a summary of the main idea of the theory of solipsisms. Before we understand the kinds, it should be noted that the idea of solipsisms is running for a long period of time. The usage of these terms was recorded in 1700’s literature. And in the modern era too, this term could be found in every subjective and metaphysical text.

Kinds of Solipsisms-

1. Epistemological solipsisms-  Certainty is in one’s own consciousness.

2. Ontological solipsisms-  Only individual consciousness exists.

3. Psychological solipsisms- self-disturbances leading to the solipsistic lifeworld.

I have been reading an article where it was written that the schizophrenic patients(a mental disorder with detached reality) mostly live in their own solipsistic world. Schizophrenia symptoms include distorted thoughts, hallucinations, paranoia and feelings of fright. So, it could be concluded that the excess of anything could be dangerous. And, so, the excess of solipsisms in one’s life is not a good idea.

Therefore,it must be concluded that one should be able to have a proper balance between the internal life and external life. When the objective world is given proper sense and well-analyzed through the medium of a subjective world, then our self is preserved.

I would like to conclude my article with some poetic lines of ‘Soliloquy of the solipsist’ by Sylvia Path.

“I
Make houses shrink
And trees diminish
By going far; my look’s leash
Dangles the puppet-people
Who, unaware how they dwindle,
Laugh, kiss, get drunk,
Nor guess that if I choose to blink
They die.”

The last line of the stanzas makes clear that if ‘I’ don’t exists nothing exists. There is a complete importance and justification to the person ‘I’ and that’s make it a perfect example for the topic of solipsism.

Relationships – A miracle

“Life is experience and experience is the relationship we make.”  We are in relation to a person, object or thing because we feel gratified.

We feel a sense of pleasure, satisfaction and accomplishments in being with some other person. Our goals, attitudes and beliefs change for the relations we are serious about.

We value a person more who is in a long term relationship with us. Here, when I am talking about relationships, it’s not only about being in a romantic relationship. It’s about all kinds of relations- romantic, social, business partners, and family members.

Relationship is identification

When we are connected to someone, then we seek a kind of identification to a person. We want to be related and identified by the same links, same connections, same motivations and sometimes same patterns of thought.

The relationship is often believed to be self-revelations. It’s the conditions in which we reflect ourselves in the best possible ways. In a relationship, we are always reaching for a higher self and presenting the best version of us to others.

Know the ‘Value-Theory’

Philosophically, ‘value theory’ explains the three conditions of ‘how’, ‘what’ and ‘why’ a person value an object or things. It is the measuring of degrees- ‘which a person tries to project in every relation’. Now we should take the ‘degree’ very seriously. It is because of the varying degree we feel less or more valuable in a person life. Suppose a person is in a stronger relationship with you, hence the degree of valuing your thoughts, thinking and attitude would be high. Considering the opposite views, if a person is not in a stronger relationship with you, then the degree of valuing your thoughts, thinking and attitudes would be low.

If you feel like being ignored or rejected by a person, then measure the degree of compatibility, love, trust & understanding which you and your other partner shares.

It makes sense that a person respects you because he feels a connection in your presence. He feels responsible for you. He is in a continuous impression to make you worthy of whoever you are.

Conflicts in a Relationship

The mutual consent is must between two persons who share a relationship. The lack of mutual agreement may raise conflicts and bring troubles. Here I will share some methods which would make you identify the rising conflicts before it turns too late:

  1. Measure the quality of the relationship
    Is it a long term or short term relationship? Are you in some forced relations or is it a pure mutual consent? The more definite quality you share with a person, the more there is a chance of happy relations (without any conflicts).
  2. Measure the goals of the relationship
    Every kind of relations has got some goals. Goals define responsibilities. It could be your family goals, partnership goals, love goals, brother goals, sister goals, friends goals and any other. You need to understand very well the goals you have to fulfil in any relations you make.
  3. Measure frequency
    In your relationships, how often you meet and talk? If a person is very close to you, then it is more important to focus on needs and bear responsibilities. If a person is in a long distance and you meet rarely, then you could avoid being responsible for everything happen to a person. Checking the frequency properly may set your goals well.
  4. Identify commitments
    When you are in relation to some person, then you have some form of commitments in regards to that person. It may be mutual or one side. Whatever responsibilities you bear in terms of that person, you should identify and try to sort it possibly. When you find a person committed to you and taking care of all your responsibilities, then you are in a safe zone. Feel happy and accomplished to be a part of a good relation.
  5. Communications
    Most of the problems occur in a relationship because we avoid communication. Healthy communication is a sign that your relationships don’t require any future healing. If you communicate with your pal well, then you also discuss, analyse and understands the other person feeling and try not to hurt the person.

Intrinsic & Hypothetical Values

Intrinsic value is a value of itself. It is understanding the circumstances in which our values are dependent on another person perceptive. It is considering how valuable we are actually? It is realizing the values of us in the real world. One may consider self as highly valuable and then expect others to believe the same. In our point of view, we must be important and valuable. But, the real values are counted when it is with respect to some other person. So, you should make sure that the intrinsic value you carry is relatable to the values other person carries for you.

Hypothetical values are always based on conditions. Western Philosopher Kant considers it as a value which comes under the categories of ‘if-then’.  It is always in expectations of something. When you give value to someone, you expect you should also be valued. It is never a one-way thing. It is the involvement of both parties to contribute equally to the nourishment of a relationship.

Call for action

Now you understand the true meaning of values. You should realize immediately when your relationships goals aren’t met. And, if you are struggling to get a value from a person, and willfully investing time, money, respect, emotions, feelings, everything to save a relationship. Then, it is high time you should understand that relationships are never a one-man thing. A successful relationship requires effort, nourishment and understanding from both ends.

Stop Delaying; Start Doing

Simply defining, Procrastination is voluntarily delaying the tasks for a longer period of time. But, it could happen both intentionally and unintentionally. Intentionally, it is due to lack of moods, emotions & motivations and unintentionally because of the shortage of time.

Procrastination is considered as evil. It not only delays your tasks but makes you a habitual task avoider. You may not finish your tasks on time, you will wait for deadlines, and ultimately you will not commit 100% on your given tasks.

Why we Procrastinate our work? It is because we are not motivated to complete it. If we don’t have any motivations then we may not stick to it. And when we don’t stick to it, then there are lesser chances of completion of our work. Suppose we are motivated a bit, then it may happen that we are not setting the proper reminder to finish our tasks and we are completely diverted from our goals. Motivations should be inbound or continuous. Procrastination is like keeping a bad faith in our abilities. When we are given a task, we would feel under the wrong impressions of finishing tasks on last dates. As a result, we would not start working immediately, we would intentionally delay and give unlimited excuses. Somewhere in our mind, there might be a feeling that we are supposed to finish our tasks in so & so period of time. It means we are aware of our thing, but we like to delay voluntarily. The guilt feelings would shape into a regular habit. Conclusively, we would complete the tasks at the last moment. No doubt, we may finish it and at its best. But it may be possible that we would miss some important points related to our work and we wouldn’t revise or conclude it properly.

There is a reason why Greek Poet Hesiod says “not to put your work off till tomorrow and the day after.”

When people procrastinate, then there is a high level of stress on arriving deadlines. As a result, the personal well being gets affected and people would feel de-motivated and exhausted. The failure in setting priorities and regulating the daily tasks would impact negatively on our over-all behaviour. Procrastination is just a lack of seriousness. Once we start caring for what we do we may not procrastinate. Though procrastination is studied under the area of psychology and science, its impacts could be seen on philosophical concepts of virtue, ethics, judgements and the unmeasured consequences. The chances of being unethical would be high on an increased level of stress due to delay. No doubt, procrastination has an ill-effect and could be controlled by adopting ways to check our procrastination habits.

Scientifically. Procrastination is considered as a gap between intention and actions. People are intended towards completing a task but due to lack of proper drives, one may not feel committed to acting. A strong commitment to work would bring better results. And this strong level of commitment is achieved by stopping ourselves from procrastinating tasks.

Compromise with No-Pains

Have you ever felt like compromising your living styles thinking of your future needs? Compromising is a big thing and if you know ‘the art of compromising’ then you are doing absolutely fine in your life. Many a time in our life, we have to compromise with respect to people, situations, time and place. It is very difficult to adjust every-time according to circumstances.

The life of compromise isn’t suited to each one of us. But, we do because we wish to maintain a good record. Quarrelling, fighting and snatching away the things we want to have, is not really the best method to get your desirable things. So, compromise seems to be the best ways. In order to not compromise, we tend to make our own happy path. We like to live in our own house, eat the food we like, and dress up the way we enjoy. We work hard to make our life comfortable in a way we want. Sometimes hardships and passing through all kinds of uncomfortable situations is because we want to make our livings more comfortable.

Generally, it’s human psychology to fight and come out of bad circumstances in the best possible ways. Whenever there was raining; humans created shade, whenever there was a lack of food, farmers cultivated more, whenever there was lack of anything, humans civilizations made an effort to bring a new one. We tend to live life as per our needs. If our needs aren’t fulfilled by applying all the efforts, we try to compromise or adjust to our circumstances.

Compromising has got different concepts; the first one is compromising while making a mutual agreement with one other on some principles. It is the barter system and the business dealings where the basic terms & conditions are followed to keep the process active. There is a little compromise as both the parties are fulfilling their needs by following the principles they could both follow.

The next concept is to compromise in your relationships. In this type, the basic principle is sometimes compromised, or the principles are not followed completely. In this system, only one party compromise on other set principles. In this system, people compromise to obey some relations like friendship, parenthood, or other roles. This is usually followed in order to ‘get along’ with others.

The third kind of compromise is due to fear of losing. This types of compromise are generally seen in the surroundings where one person is powerful than others. In this compromise, principles are not followed honestly. So, there is very less virtue in following the third kind of compromise. The higher authority takes undue advantages of a lower one. And the lower one compromise for not losing the present job or positions.

Compromising or choosing to make ourselves the way our life demands from us is a thing of past. The ‘Survival of fittest’ talks of assimilating the self in pre-established norms & culture. It was said that if we will not prepare ourselves for a position, then someone else will take it away. But why we don’t understand that the culture, norms & principles are human creations? It was according to some needs that such principles and features were created. Therefore, blindly following the evil things isn’t going to take us in the right path.

We have to absolutely keep ourselves fit & fine to deal with all kinds of harsh situations. We have to keep prepared from all the bad unwelcome situations. Compromising is one thing and following up is another. People are more engaged in the following thing than compromising. People will follow all kinds of rubbish rules, lifestyles, challenges and functions. The ‘follow up’ has a negative influence on our overall wellness. Some evil minded-people will keep on ruling us unless we don’t make an effort to stop following. We need to utilise our senses to decide what’s best for us rather than literally following the rubbish thing. We should be compromising with our life needs. But, to fulfil a need if we are choosing to adapt in unfavourable circumstance, then we should rethink our choices.

We should compromise to lessen our needs. But, to fulfil our growing needs if we are following the bad culture, and not raising the voice against wrongs, then our life is in danger. We should realise the danger and sort it out as soon as possible. Our choice of living decides our future, so choices should be nicely selected. It all upon us to understand all kind of compromises we are making in our lives, and eliminate the wrong kind of compromises. Compromising is a virtue, and the virtue is by getting into the right kind of choices rather compromising or living with our wrong choices.

Let’s Come Out Of Comfort Zone!

Have you ever noticed a small insect inside a cocoon transforming into a beautiful butterfly? Isn’t it amazing to see the ugly small creature becoming its best version in a certain number of days? We all are like that insect inside a cocoon. The cocoon is our comfort zone- the level which stops us from growing further. We like our comfort zone as we are happily satisfied. We all want to be a successful person, but many of us may not find it suitable to leave the comfort zone. One may think that there is so much of danger to leave the safe-zone. One may encounter the uncontrollable troubles. One may be threatened for life. One may lose everything they have got. The danger of losing everything stops us from achieving the things we are really capable of. There is always optimal anxiety in choosing to leave our comfortable surroundings. The optimal anxiety, psychologically, termed as a stress level which is high than normal during the hardships faced while coming out of comfort zone. We may feel trapped between choosing to ‘’leave the comfort zone’’ or ‘’live the comfort zone’’. The life in a flow sounds good. Everyone advises staying out of danger. Because everyone thinks that dangers could take away everything we have got.

No one in life really wants to push them out of comfort zone. It is because they think there is nothing good getting out of comfort zone. Now let’s twist our thinking a bit. Let’s see something different and out of the box. ‘’To search for comforts, one may lose the comforts’’ isn’t so true. While pushing yourself out and trying a different thing may broaden your horizon. You may discover your hidden talents you never knew before. You may be surprised to see the different version of yourself. You will feel happy that you decided to come out of your comfort zone. Ask an athlete who practised tough to win the gold in Olympics, ask a scholar who researched day-night and gets her patent finalised, ask a soldier who troubles his life to save his Nation. There are many people on Earth who has somewhere in their lives taken great pain to achieve what they really care for. They have pushed themselves out of their comfort level, struggled from all the odds, not care for the words of others, not afraid of failures and finally transforming into their best versions. It’s not that all such successful people might not have faced anxiety, may not have faced pain, and any danger. But the thing is they have eradicated all the negative feelings, they have controlled their anxiety positively, and they cleared all the jammed roads to reach the path they dream about. Controlled anxiety is real anxiety. It depends on you- the way you cope up. It’s your level of personal motivation- the innate drives which makes you stay positive and active to reach out for your goals.

We are so well satisfied in our own comfort -zones, we are psychologically choosing hedonistic adaptations in our lives. It is the pleasure which makes us content to not reach for the other pleasures. It should be noted that every time it’s not about the pleasures. It’s also about the transformations. Imagine a normal sailor Columbus may not have faced the fear of drowning in ocean storms to discover the untrodden island which later became America. Imagine Graham Bell, the deaf scientist, may not have researched with the sounds to discover the Telecommunication equipment. Imagine the Vedas are never revealed in scriptures. In all such cases, our life would not be as it is now. We all are comfortable in our lives because of the people who have found their best of hidden abilities only to contribute some new thing to society. The legacy of knowledge should be transformed throughout generations. We should discover ourselves in the best possible way to contribute the best of our parts to the development of society. No pleasure is greater than the satisfaction in discovering our inbuilt capacities.

To discover the hidden qualities are no-one day thing. You need to go step-by-step. If you walk, make an effort to run. If you write, make an effort to finish a book. If you like coding, make an effort to make your own software applications. Remember every effort count. Remember you can be successful by your every small endeavour. Your every action is a contribution you are making to society. Always try to broaden your horizon in a different way. You would find yourself becoming the best version of you. It is a complete transformation when we leave the cocoon – the comfort zone to discover the hidden possibilities inside us.

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